Bisexual?!

I have just a lil rant, lol. Can someone tell me what the big deal is with using the term bisexual. Ok in recent months I have come to learn that M doesn't like the term and doesn't appreciate that I am, I swear I never knew this, you would think we just met, lol.

When I set up the blog, I put on the profile that I was bi, that's how I classify myself. Let me break it down so you guys will understand where I am coming from. M is the only woman I have been with, that means I have not seen or touched a "real" winkie woo in almost 4 yrs, but I am still attracted to men. Now my attraction to women is new for me, and has grown with our relationship, first it was just M or so I thought, now I increasingly fine my self noticing other "studs" and appreciating other "femme's" shape. So I am attracted to both men and women, I thought that is what the term Bi meant.

For her it just seems to send up red flags, she used to date men too, but came out to herself about a year before we met (she was still in the closet the first yr of our relationship, half way anyway), and her first two encounters were with bisexual women like herself at the time. But for her she quickly realized that although she wasn't ready to come out of the closet she only wanted to be with women, however the other two women did not have the same revelation. The first one realized she cared for M but could never be in a relationship with a woman, so that was short lived. Then she started dating a friend, who was openly bisexual, and then up pops the girls out of state boyfriend. Then comes lil old, green me. Lol. I never turned back, and we have been together every since, so it should be a mute point right. You would think by now she knows that I am not changing my mind and she is not just a fly by night booty call, right? Not, its like when she saw the word on my blog it brought up old memories and I have had the term bisexual thrown at me in the last few months more than I ever have.


Unfortunately for me it appears that there is this automatic type cast when it comes to the term bisexual. I don't hop from one bed to the next, and I don't consider myself indecisive. I am not confused, or bi-curious. I am bisexual meaning I like both sexes, I am attracted to both sexes, capable of loving both sexes. It does not mean that I am doing any of this with two separate people at the same time or together. I am learning as I go, and my appetite is expanding, but I don't get the automatic assumption that comes along with the description.

I am not naive, everyone has a difference of opinion, their own vices, quirks vice versus, not to mention their own likes, dislikes, freakiness, etc. What I am attempting to say is that not every Bisexual person is the same, its like grouping every Lesbian, Gay Man, or Transgender into the same category and that's what we fight against, right?

I am me, I am confident in myself, and I have been embracing my journey all the way.
I am quite capable of loving one person and only one person. I never knew some Lesbian women had a problem with Bisexual women, and I get it to a certain extinct, but why group every woman into a small narrow minded group. I am forever learning......but someone has to help me with this one.