Whats In Your Support System?

I don't know if its just me but from time to time I have to check my environment. Assess the people I have in my corner, or determine if I really have anyone down for me. This was huge issue for me when I initially came "out". I found that I made "friends" or latched on to people that were "family" or that claimed to understand me or accepted my lifestyle. Oh but I learned quickly that the quality of who you allow in your life far surpasses the quantity.

I was going thru an identity crisis of my own, and felt isolated from certain sectors of my life that were previously so important to me. The truth is when you are part of the LGBT community you are part of an "elite" club that comes with all the beautiful "perks" of hatred, maliciousness, and discrimination from the outside world, mainly focused on WHAT you are not WHO you are. When you are a part of this wonderful team its important to have the best support system available. For each of us that is comprised of something completely different.... friends, family, our partners, spouses, co-workers, pastor, etc.

Whatever or whoever it consist of make sure its true and consistent. Make sure its supportive and compliments you as a person. You have enough to fight with in the world, no need to bring the fight to your own backyard.

Check your surroundings, ask yourself if the people in your support system are right for you? And please do a self check, as important as it is for you to have the right people in your corner, its just as important for you to be accountable to those you love and support.

Missing Woman....

I saw this on one of the other blogs, and thought I would pass it on, never know you know ... Mitrice Richardson missing since last Friday ....http://www.cbsnews.com/blogs/2009/09/25/crimesider/entry5339581.shtml

Now with that being said.....

Let's get to talking people.... its on my heart to encourage everyone to be themselves, be positive and true. When I started this journey I had such a difficult time finding myself. Looking back on it I can admit that. I was so busy trying to prove that I was not gonna change, that I was letting every little thing get under my skin and I was changing right before everyones' eyes. In straight denial!!!! Change and growth is a part of life, if you know who you are embrace it. Live life and love it. Not every moment is gonna be happy and not everyone is going to love you, like you, or respect you. But if you love, like, and respect yourself the people on the outside looking in have no choice but to take notice,.... whether they admit it or not. See once you realize that you are fabulous with or without anyone elses' approval you will live a much happier life. So love you, take care of #1 first, and the rest will definitely follow.....

Thanks

Hello all thanks to everyone that has viewed the page and given me such positive feedback, I love you all for your support and EXPECT your truthfulness and suggestions.....

About Me

Hi I'm Lady K, and I am starting this blog in hopes of helping and uniting our community. I am a 28 year old bisexual woman, who at the age of 25 decided to be true to myself and found love in a very unexpected place. It was a huge change for my family and friends but it has brought me great joy and love. Along my journey I have grown and changed alot, I have had to hit my head a few times and I have to put a few people in their place, while learning mine all at the same time. And although I have changed I was blessed with a family that with great patience and understanding have learned to accept me and my mate as one. This is truly a blessing in itself and has come with much prayer, and yes a few arguments too. But with love and kindness I am still here and thanking God for every day. I want that same love and understanding for our entire community. We face struggles everyday like the average men and women of America, living in a country that is going thru a very public difficult time. However we have added issues and baggage that we are forced to carry that in part have the ability to make our life harder. Hopefully this blog will serve as a focal point for growth and understanding. With that being said, we will talk about everything no matter how minute. And we will address the big issues head on, with any luck the blog will atleast get you to talking and thinking outside the box. Or maybe even provide an outlet for expression and understanding. It doesn't matter your age, race, color, or creed this is intended for everyone. Feel free to post any "real" question you may have, and if I don't have the answer for you, I'll find one (a real one). For those that will be responding to post,.... this is about positive movement and upliftment, like you were told as a child "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all", stick to the Golden Rule and we will be just fine. With that being said, enjoy, and send me your thoughts, questions, and concerns and lets get it crackin!!! Love ya.....